HIDDEN TREASURE
Hidden Treasure
A man was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake. They didn’t look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him.
As he strolled along the beach, he threw the clay balls, one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could. He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone! Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of rupees worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him. He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown may be 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of rupees in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!
It’s like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn’t look like much from the outside. It isn’t always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it. We see that person as less important than someone more smart, beautiful, stylish, well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person. We do not try to find the strengths, talents, competency and the skills of a person. We tend to discard a person immediately after few initial observations, few questions and few tasks and try to ill treat, humiliate and dissuade. Rather we tend to
- criticize persons in front of others
- show favoritism
As a result the individual instead of getting encouraged or scope to utilize his potential enters into a shell, doesn’t open up and becomes vulnerable to further criticism and neglect.
Your personality problems are your problems with other people. There are people today who are self – conscious, shy and ill at ease in official / social situations. They feel inferior and never realize that their real problem is a human relations problem. It never seems to get across to them that their failure as personality is a failure in learning to deal successfully with people.
There are almost as many who, at least on the surface seem to be opposite of the shy, retiring type. They appear to be self-assured. They are “bossy” and dominate any official / social situation they are in, whether it is the home, office or the club. Yet they too realize that something is missing. They realize why their employees or their families do not appreciate them. They wonder why their people do not co-operate more willingly; why it is necessary to continually force people into line. And most, of all, they realize in their more candid moments, that the people they are most anxious to impress never really give them the approval and acceptance they crave. They attempt to force co-operation, loyalty & friendship; to push people to produce for them. But the one thing they cannot force people is to like them. They never really get what they want because they have never mastered the art of dealing with people.
People when aggrieved will not give their 100 percent commitment or co-operation. Many a time we fail to recognize our shortcomings in dealing with people. We fail
- To recognize the importance of employee
- to give credit for suggestions
- to redress grievances
- to encourage
- to ask employees their opinions
- to inform employees of their progress / give feedback
Whether we like it or not, people are here to stay. In our modern world, we simply cannot achieve any success or happiness without taking other people into account. We can not achieve everything single handed. We need teams of varied skills, talents, potential to achieve our goal. Skills in human relations are similar to skill in any other field, in that success depends on understanding and mastering certain basic general principles.
There are four ways to make others feel important. They are:
- Think that the other person is important
- Notice people and pay a big complement
- Don’t compete with people. Let them know that they impress you.
- Know when to correct others. Don’t try to win all the little battles. The negative impact you create far outweighs the small victory for your own ego.
There is a treasure in each and every one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person, and if we ask God to show us that person the way He sees them, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth. So don’t throw away all the clay balls… Explore what is hidden underneath it, instead.
About the Author
The author is a HR professional having more than 26 years of hands-on experience in HR, IR, HRD in industry, academics & training.
Ready To Wear Beauty Treasures Makeup Set
|
|
Animal House Duck Magnetic Mini Clip (Set of 4) $9.95 63380 Features: -Set of 4 magnetic mini clips.-Duck design.-High density plastic clip.-Soft non slip grip. Dimensions: -Overall dimensions: 1” H x 0.75” W x 1.75” D. Collection: -Animal House collection…. |
|
|
CRYSTAL GIFTWARE SUGAR PKT CADDY $11.99 CRYSTAL SUGAR PACKET CADDY. Dress dining companions in formal attire with sparkling full-lead crystal. 2.5″h x 3″w x 4″l…. |
|
|
Disney’s Mad Hatter Tea Cup From Fantasy Land $29.00 Bean Bag… |
|
|
[VHS]Peter Pan(Fully Restored 45th Anniversary Limited Edition) (Walt Disney Masterpiece Collection) [VHS] $16.50 Peter Pan has a special place in the realm of classic animated Disney films: it instills an element of childlike wonder. The 1953 version of James M. Barrie’s story is colorfully told and keeps on the straight and narrow of the book. Barrie’s wondrous focus on child’s play is the key to its longevity: kids who don’t grow up, shadows that run away from their owners, pirates, a fairy, and the magic… |
|
|
Hostel: Part II (Unrated Widescreen Edition) $4.77 With repulsion levels at least comparable to Cannibal Holocaust, Herschell Gordon Lewis’ Blood Feast, and other gory slasher landmarks, Eli Roth’s Hostel 2 reconfigures ideas of violence to test how down and dirty a horror film can get. The film raises the stakes, leaving those who wish to make a sicker film out in the lurch for the time being. This sequel, like the first Hostel, is set in and aro… |
|
|
Harvest Moon $5.54 When Neil Young seems about to zig, he zags. Two years after 1990’s loud Ragged Glory, he retreats to an old world of steel guitars, gentle folk melodies, and pristine country choruses. (That’s Linda Ronstadt, who helped make 1972’s Harvest a hit album, singing backup on the follow-up.) Young name-drops Hank Williams, Jimi Hendrix, and his old dog, King, in rich reminiscences about the musical rid… |
|
|
The Lion King (Two-Disc Platinum Edition) $16.95 Walt Disneys – The Lion King on DVD – 2 Disc Special EditionSimba the feisty lion cub who “just cant wait to be king.” But hisenvious Uncle Scar has plans for his own ascent to the throne and heforces Simbas exile from the kingdom. Alone and adrift Simba soonjoins the escapades of a hilarious meerkat named Timon and hiswarmhearted warthog pal Pumbaa. Adopting their carefree lifestyle of”Hakuna Mat… |
|
|
My Big Fat Greek Wedding $2.30 DVD… |
|
|
Something’s Gotta Give $2.96 As upscale sitcoms go, Something’s Gotta Give has more to offer than most romantic comedies. Obviously working through some semi-autobiographical issues regarding “women of a certain age,” writer-director Nancy Meyers brings adequate credibility and above-average intelligence to what is essentially (but not exclusively) a fantasy premise, in which an aging lothario who’s always dated younger women… |
|
|
Tazo Tea Chai-Spiced Black-Organic 20 Bags $3.00 Tazo Chai An authentic blend of rich black Indian teas and aromatic spices in the style of the hill-dwellers of the Himalayas. Medium-bodied yet full-flavored, with the spicy kick of cinnamon, ginger, cardamom and black pepper…. |